Tips for Single Women in Porn Theaters

Today I am finishing up a series of posts of guidelines for your porn theater visit. You can read my tips for couples or etiquette for single guys in adult theaters if you'd like, to get a little broader context on things. Today, I turn my attention to a request that I received from Lexi. She said:

I stumbled acrossed your blog by accident, and I love it! I do have one favor to ask, could you post some advice for us ladies that fantasize about giving themselves unto a theater. I've been to my local adult theater to make purchases but have never made it past the store front. I just don't know how to go about it. I would love to go to one just far enough away not to be recognized, but I have no clue what to do next. 

Could you give advice to us ladies that fantasize about giving ourselves over to a theater? I have so many questions.... Is it safe to go on my own? When is a good time to go? How do I know if someone is interested in play? How do I let them know I'm game? How do I set boundaries? 

It would be great if you could address these questions. I do so hope you'll consider it, who knows maybe I'll meet you in a dark theater someday.

A woman enjoying herself
(and others) at a porn theater

First of all, Lexi, I am glad you stumbled across the blog and am even happier that you like it. I'll do my best to answer your questions, and maybe some of our other female readers will have a few bits of advice to add below, as well.

Single women in theaters are unusual, of course, but they are out there and as more and more couples are finding their way to theaters it is only normal to expect that more single women will follow. Let's tackle these questions one at a time.

Is it safe for a woman to go to a porn theater on her own?

I find myself wanting to make some sort of a disclaimer here. My short answer to the question is, "Yes, it's safe." My longer answer has something to do with the realities of life in this society and that we must all exercise a certain amount of caution at all times. I am going to assume that you understand the longer answer and leave the matter there.

On the whole, I think you will find that there is actually a level of protected safety for women in porn theaters. The men are thrilled that you are there, and will want to do anything they can to convince you to stay as long as possible. Of course, the theater management is also interested in ensuring that you have the best experience possible, so that you will come back! They, too, will do all that they can to help you feel comfortable. Having said that, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind.

1. If safety is a concern, you might consider getting a guy to go with you. He doesn't need to accompany you as a partner. Just knowing that he is in the theater can help. I know of two different couples that usually go to the theater as two "singles". Usually, the man enters first and some time later the lady comes in. She plays with whomever she wants and he watches (in the case of one couple) or participates (in the case of the other) as though they were complete strangers. Of course, this assumes you have someone for that purpose.(Of course, I might recommend a certain guy with years of porn theater experience who has this little blog on the topic... wink, wink.)

The other option is simply to find a "buddy" at the theater. Late one afternoon many years ago a lady approached me as I was going into a theater. She made some awkward small talk, then told me she wanted to go in, but was nervous about being alone. She simply asked if I would watch out for her, with no further obligation on either of our part. I agreed, of course, and watched her have a very enjoyable time for the better part of two hours.

2. Remember that not all theaters are equal. Those you describe with a retail store that caters to women are not the same as the dives that some of us have known in the hidden corners of the industrial zones of our fair cities. More and more theaters are well-lit, spotlessly clean, and do all they can to cater to women and couples. Those are the places you will want to find as a single woman.

3. Finding a busy theater, with couples present, probably provides the best atmosphere for a single woman who wants to be able to be comfortable, in every sense, as she plays.

When is the best time to go?

Honestly, you could go anytime, but in keeping with the last point, I would suggest a weekend evening. If, however, you think you might prefer a quieter moment, weekdays during the day are best. The guys will be less likely to be expecting you, therefore, their expectations on the whole will be lower, creating less pressure for everyone.

How do I know if someone is interested in playing?

In general terms, three kinds of men go to porn theaters. Those who are hoping to interact with another man, Those who don't want to interact with anyone, and Those who would love to play with a woman. For many years there were a number of men from the first two categories. With the advent of VCRs and DVD's, the number of men in the second category fell off, as they were able to get what they wanted in more private setting. In recent years, the number of men in the third category has grown exponentially

Those who are not interested in playing will never even look at you. Those that would be interested (and I am guessing that there will be more than a few) will not be hard to spot. Some will sneak little peaks when they think you are not watching them. Some will make eye contact with you. Others will speak. It might be anything from a hello to a pick up line to a direct request. Don't be shocked or insulted if that happens. They know why they are there and they figure there is a better than average chance that you are there for the same thing, so they might approach you very directly. Some men will touch themselves or even expose themselves for you. Things are not subtle in porn theaters.

How does a single woman let men know that she wants to play in a porn theater?

A woman can let a guy know that she is interested in him just by looking at him. I don't mean a casual glance. Every guy that you happen to see on the way to a seat is not going to assume that you are available to him. But by making eye contact, or smiling, or looking long enough at whatever he is showing you he will know that you are interested. Of course, you could also be a bit more forward. If you see something you like, show him something that he might like, and let the games begin.

Start by engaging him (or them) just that easily. If you want them to come closer, pat the seat next to you or, if you prefer, get up and walk over. Walking around in a porn theater is far more accepted than it is in a normal theater. Once you are seated together, move the conversation, or the action, as you see fit.

How does a single woman set boundaries in a porn theater?

 Clearly and directly.  I think I am on firm ground here when I say that most men will do their best to push the limits... right up to the minute that are certain that they can push no further. If you just want him to watch from a distance, shake your head the minute he starts to get close. Say it out loud if you need to. If you just want to touch him, tell him no the minute that he reaches for you. You don't need to be angry about it. In fact, you can very playfully tell him "uh uh" and he will still know that mean it. If a second guy tries to touch and you want to keep your attention on just the one lucky man, again, just tell him. Once the boys know the rules, they will play by them. Remember, you have the ability to stand up and walk out anytime you want, and they know that.

If you want to get lost in some group affection (I like your phrase "giving themselves unto a theater"), just announce to the group what is on the menu and let them pass the word to the newcomers. For example, "Gentlemen, I want to send you all home happy today, but you must wear a condom and no one is allowed in back." Say it with a dirty girl wink and a smile and they will be jerking off to your memory for the rest of their lives. More than that, they will help police the crowd for you.

So there you go. A few basic guidelines to get you started in the world of porn theater sex. I hope some other ladies will add their advice, too. Just use the comment form below. As I have thought about these things I have been reminded of some nice experiences with some adventurous single women in porn theaters over the years. I need to write them down and share them here.

Most of all, Lexi, I hope we can hear from you after you take the plunge. In the meantime, I will certainly be keeping my eyes open for you in those dark theaters.